Parenting Ain’t For Cowards

And you must love the Lord your God with all your heart, all your soul, and all your strength. And you must commit yourselves wholeheartedly to these commands (the 10 commandments listed in chapter 5) that I am giving you today. Repeat them again and again to your children. Talk about them when you are at home and when you are on the road, when you are going to bed and when you are getting up. Deut. 6:5-7 NLT

I’ve been discovering anew that it doesn’t take much effort for children to learn to sin but it takes tremendous effort to correct sinful behaviors. Recently, I picked our grandson up from day care. The teacher indicated that he had not had a good day. When I asked him what happened he immediately confessed his transgressions. And even at 2 and a half, he already has in innate sense of blame-shifting. That’s not something he’s been taught. When we ride through the city playing the ‘what do you see game’ we’ve already had to have conversations about not saying you’ve seen something if you haven’t.

Scripture teaches that we are born in sin. From the moment we arrive on this earth we are constantly battling the sinful nature. As parents and grandparents I believe we too readily and too easily excuse childish behavior as just that. Don’t get me wrong, I’m not suggesting that we start casting out demons every time our children make a mistake or do something wrong. What I am suggesting -actually what God commands – is that we recognize the slippery slope of sin and begin, from the time our children are born, teaching them God’s standards. From the beginning we need to help children see their behaviors in the light of the standards set by a loving God. Dennis Rainey teaches in One Home At A Time that we are either raising our children to be missionaries or a mission field. When we fail to teach them God’s standards, when we fail to impart a Godly vision for their behaviors, attitudes and their future, we send them UNPREPARED into a culture, into a world that TAKES NO PRISONERS. We are in a war and wartime requires aggressive defensive and offensive moves. Parenting ain’t for cowards! Time is out for passive parenting. Get in the game before it’s too late!

Let’s keep the dialogue going.

Be blessed.


Do You Want A Revolution? Whoop Whoop

We’ve started a new study: One Home At A Time: Restoring The Soul of American Through God’s Plan For Your Marriage & Family: Dennis Rainey

“The only real revolutions are those that change the

mind and the heart..”

We live in an era crying out for revolution and reformation.  There are churches on nearly every corner and humungous mega churches on television and the internet around the clock. YET, marriage and family relationships are appalling and break the heart.

Definitions for the words revolution and reformation offer insight for those tired of seeing marriages fail at astounding rates, families fall apart, children and parents acting in disrespectful and dishonoring ways while the ‘church’ sits idly by.

Revolution: a drastic and far-reaching change in ways of thinking and behaving;

Reformation: improvement (or an intended improvement) in the existing form or condition of institutions or practices; rescuing from error and returning to a rightful course

My Sunday School class members are being challenged to launch a personal attack on the kingdom of darkness which wants to destroy marriages, families, communities and the world. I mentioned earlier that the ‘church’ is standing idly by. It is… because WE are standing idly by. We feel hopeless and helpless so we don’t act. We expect the pastor, president, government officials – always somebody else – to effect change so we don’t take personal responsibility. And while we, the Church of God, stands idly by, the enemy is kicking major butt! See, the enemy NEVER stands idly by. The enemy doesn’t take a break and the enemy doesn’t blame-shift! The enemy is on his job 24/7.  It’s time for a revolution! It is time for a reformation!

A true revolution only occurs when one person’s mind and heart are engaged in such a way that he or she is compelled to make a change.  One person can make a difference. History is filled with people who were compelled to act because of something going on in their lives. The book details the actions of Martin Luther whose heart was broken by the selling of indulgences.  You might not have to look that far. Some of you were raised by an Aunt or Grandma who stepped in to rescue you from abusive or neglectful parents.  You can, in fact you must, be willing to take a stand!   God specializes in making generational changes by touching one person at a time! Be that person!

Family Reformation requires Revolution!!

Do you want a revolution? Whoop whoop.

Read Chapter 2 in the book for next week’s discussion!

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