Upcoming Marriage Retreat



New study to begin in February: Bring Home The Joy

An invitation to invest in your relationship!

Starting next week we will begin a new study for married couples. I also recommend that those who are engaged participate.

The book, Bring Home The Joy, is a series of articles by some of the greatest minds on marriage.  The study is designed to help couples “strengthen and renew” marriages at any stage, whether brand new or seasoned.


We will learn

  • the number one priority in your marriage
  • how to fight in a way that lets you both come out winners
  • the incredible power of commitment
  • secrets for enjoying mutually satisfying sex (married folk only)
  • how to become soul mates
  • and much more!

Please get a copy of the book and join me weekly as I post summaries from the Sunday lessons.  I invite your comments.  I know that God is going to bless so plan now to join us in this study.

You are welcomed to join us at Omega Baptist Church on Sundays at 10:00.

It’s Okay To Quit

A friend sent this to me recently and it seemed like sage advice as we reassess where we are with our new year’s resolutions (nowhere?).

This was attributed to Gwendolyn B. McElrath.

It’s Okay To Quit!

1)     Quit arguing with people about the same old foolishness!
-Respect their position and keep it moving!

2)     Quit telling people your secrets when you know they are not going to keep them!
-And if you keep telling them, then quit getting mad when they tell your secrets!

3)     Quit trying to pull people on your journey who don’t want to travel with you!
-Either they believe in you and value you …or they don’t!

4)     Quit complaining about things you can’t and won’t change!

-I am not working on being a size 6 or a model…so instead of complaining about the weight charts, I negotiated with my doctor for a “comfortable weight for me.” Forget the charts! I created my own “healthy weight!”

5)     Quit gossiping about other people!
-Minding our own business should be a full time job!

6)     Quit blaming each other for things that in the big picture aren’t going to matter 3 weeks from now!
-Talk solutions…and then implement them!

7)     Quit eating things you know are not good for you!
-If you can’t quit…eat smaller portions! (I know…this is hard for me too!)

8)     Quit buying things when you know you can’t afford them!
-If you don’t have self control, then quit going to the stores!
-Quit charging things, especially when you don’t NEED them!

9)     Quit staying in unhealthy relationships!
-It is not okay for people to verbally or physically abuse you! So quit lying to yourself!
-It is not okay to stay in the marriage for the children! Ask them and they will tell you that they really would prefer to see you happy and that the misery you and your spouse/partner are living with is affecting them!

10)     Quit letting friends and family members rope you into their drama!
-Start telling them you don’t want to hear it!
-Quit spreading the drama!
-Quit calling other friends and family and telling them about it! Go back to #5
– Minding your own business should be enough to keep you busy!

11)     Quit trying to change people! IT DOESN”T WORK!
-I am still working on this because I really see a world of possibilities for others and try to convince them to see and want differently for themselves!     -Quit cussing people out when you know that they are just being the miserable and jealous people that they are!

12)     Quit the job you hate!
-Start pursuing your passion
-HINT: Find the job that fuels your passion before you quit!

13)     Quit volunteering for things that you aren’t getting any personal fulfillment from anymore!
-Quit volunteering for things and then failing to follow through with your commitment!

14)     Quit listening to the naysayers!
-Quit watching the depressing news if you are going to live in the doom and gloom of it all!

15)     Quit making excuses about why you are where you are or why you can’t do what you want to do!

16)     Quit waiting on others to give you the answers…and start finding the answers for yourself!

When You Let Go Then You Will Grow!

Blessed or broken?

During this time of the year I am always cognizant of the fact that the purpose for Christmas is Easter. We spend so much time in December talking about the baby Jesus. However, if it were only about a little baby born of a virgin, our salvation would really be meaningless. What makes Christmas significant is the fact that the baby born in the lowly manger was BORN TO DIE – for you and for me. God gave us a tremendous gift in the form of God’s only son, Jesus. Yet, the true miracle is not situated in the birth alone. It’s fully situated in the fact that this baby grew into a man, one who willingly laid down his life so that you and I would be guaranteed eternal fellowship with God and a victorious life in the here and now.

And when we acknowledge and accept this gift, it comes with a responsibility to become living sacrifices. Most of us don’t even want to think about the economy and what’s happening to our retirement funds. That’s likely a good thing in some respects. We live in a time of tremendous pain. Everywhere we look, people are suffering. This is the time when we recognize that we are connected. This is the time when we realize the truth of the words “I need you to survive.”

I’m sure you’ve read this story before but it bears repeating. The truth of it is evident. I do not know the author.

A holy man was having a conversation with the Lord one day and said, ‘Lord, I would like to know what Heaven and Hell are like.’ The Lord led the holy man to two doors. He opened one of the doors and the holy man looked in.  In the middle of the room was a large round table.  In the middle of the table was a large pot of stew, which smelled delicious and made the holy man’s mouth water.

The people sitting around the table were thin and sickly.  They appeared to be famished.  They were holding spoons with very long handles that were strapped to their arms and each found it possible to reach into the pot of stew and take a spoonful.  But because the handle was longer than their arms, they could not get the spoons back into their mouths. The holy man shuddered at the sight of their misery and suffering. The Lord said, ‘You have seen Hell.’

They went to the next room and opened the door.  It was exactly the same as the first one.  There was the large round table with the large pot of stew which made the holy man’s mouth water….  The people were equipped with the same long-handled spoons, but here the people were well-nourished and plump, laughing and talking.  The holy man said, ‘I don’t understand.’ It is simple,’ said the Lord.  ‘It requires but one skill.  You see they have learned to feed each other, while the greedy think only of themselves.’

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