Hello everyone,

I made a teeshirt with ‘’ embroidered on it. As I traveled from Dayton to Florida and even during check-in, I was asked several times if this were a real website. After talking to the people who told me they would visit such a website and asking for their input on what they would want to see, ‘grammyspeaks’ was born. Although it is a new site, readers can expect to find sage advice, recipes, articles, resources, and a host of other materials designed to nurture and care for families.

Being a grandparent is such a blessing. I am honored to have this platform to share, not just my own experiences but those of others who have ‘been there-done that’ with the help of God!

I invite you to

1. visit

2. comment on any of the posts

3. send any information that you think would be helpful to readers to me at

4. pass on the url to any people you believe would benefit.

Thank you for your continued support. God is doing a marvelous work. I hear from people all over that they are reading the blogs but just not commenting. I would love to hear your thoughts.

Rev. Donna


The Loss of A Mentor: Dr. Odell Hobbs

If you read my book, Angels Encamped About Me: Provision In the Wilderness, you met Dr. Odell Hobbs as he was one of my angels. Dr. Hobbs went home to be with the Lord last week and his service took place Wednesday, May 14, 2008. I tried to attend but finding out about the death last minute meant sky-rocket airline ticket prices and rearranging several things that had already been scheduled, thus impacting others. I struggled because I really and truly wanted to be there to show my respect. Then, it occurred to me that rushing to the side of dead body doesn’t really honor the person; it makes us feel better. I wished I had gone to see him before he died so I could have talked to him. I could have sat with him once more to hear his voice, to talk about music, and to listen to him tell stories. I could have reminded him just how much he meant to me. He and I talked during the Christmas holiday and I told him just that. He never got a chance to read my book but the love I felt for him is forever written in that story.

Every time I stand before my choir, I honor the man who taught me to be passionate about music. So much of what I know and believe about music I learned from him. So much of who I am as a conductor and teacher are rooted in things I gleaned from him. I am forever grateful for the years I was a singer in the famed Virginia Union Concert Choir. Dr. Hobbs was a task master (ok, he was a maniac) but he produced excellence! We sang so beautifully at times that we were all moved to tears. And that man could make a choir do a pianissimo like none I have ever heard since and to which I still strive. He employed tough love before the term was coined. He yelled, he pushed, he threatened and he even hit me on the shoulder once in front of 100 high school students. The fact that I was running my mouth instead of paying attention is still irrelevant :).  After he hit me he made me conduct the choir. I loved that man!! I thank God for him and look forward to singing in the choir with him in Heaven, where I know he’s going to be head choral director.

Live Your Life This Way

Live your life in such a way
That when your feet hit
The floor in the morning,
Satan Shudders
And says
“OH NO—She’s AWAKE!!!”

What does this say to you?

Two Glasses Of Wine

My brother sent this to me and I thought it was special enough to share. I do not know the originator but it is really beautiful. Feel free to comment.


When things in your life seem almost too much to handle, when 24 hours in a day are not enough, remember the mayonnaise jar and the 2 glasses of wine…

A professor stood before his philosophy class and had some items in front of him.  When the class began, wordlessly, he picked up a very large and empty mayonnaise jar and proceeded to fill it with golf balls.

He then asked the students if the jar was full.  They agreed that it was.

The professor then picked up a box of pebbles and poured them into the jar.  He shook the jar lightly.  The pebbles rolled into the open areas between the golf balls.  He then asked the students again if the jar was full.  They agreed it was.

The professor next picked up a box of sand and poured it into the jar.

Of course, the sand filled up everything else.  He asked once more if the jar was full.  The students responded with a unanimous “yes.”

The professor then produced two glasses of wine from under the table and poured the entire contents into the jar, effectively filling the empty space between the sand.  The students laughed.

“Now,” said the professor, as the laughter subsided, “I want you to recognize that this jar represents your life.  The golf balls are the important things; your family, your children, your health, your friends, and your favorite passions; things that if everything else was lost and only they remained, your life would still be full.”

The pebbles are the other things that matter like your job, your house, and your car.  The sand is everything else; the small stuff.

“If you put the sand into the jar first,” he continued, “There is no room for the pebbles or the golf balls.  The same goes for life; If you spend all your time and energy on the small stuff, you will never have room for the things that are important to you.”

“Pay attention to the things that are critical to your happiness.

Play with your children.  Take time to get medical checkups.  Take your partner out to dinner.  Play another 18.  Do one more run down the ski slope.  There will always be time to clean the house and fix the disposal.  Take care of the golf balls first; the things that really matter.  Set your priorities.  The rest is just sand.”

One of the students raised her hand and inquired what the wine represented.

The professor smiled.  “I’m glad you asked.  It just goes to show you that no matter how full your life may seem, there’s always room for a couple of glasses of wine with a friend.”

Chapter 8: Priorities

This chapter is the one that leads couples to really make a 100 day commitment to their marriages. The author details three activities that every couple ought to do together every day: pray, share feelings, encourage each other. Sounds easy, doesn’t it? Also sounds like something we ought to already be doing on a daily basis without having to read it in a book, doesn’t it?  If we ought to already be doing these things, then why are so many marriages in trouble?  The answer for most is that our relationships no longer take priority over the other things we let crowd our schedules. Remember when you were dating?  Weiss reminds us that we didn’t find time to be together. We made time. Because we wanted to impress the other person, because our relationships were top priority, we made sure to schedule quality time with our lover.  After marriage, many people just can’t seem to find five minutes to sit on the sofa and tell the other person about their day. How sad. If we are to change the horrific divorce statistics we must make our relationships top priority.

I challenge every married couple to set aside 100 days to reestablish their marriages as top priority. Spend a few minutes every day telling your spouse something about you – sharing a feeling (not just a thought). Spend a few minutes every day giving your spouse a sincere compliment. And, husband, take the initiative and pray with your wife every day. To get the recommended procedure, please read this chapter of the book. The information is life-changing!

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